Thursday, August 4, 2011

little picnic date

Having dates with your husband is really important. Me and Viktor were talking about this the other day: that if dates aren't intentionally planned out to happen, and planned out well, then the relationship suffers. When we first got married, we decided we would have date night every friday night, and we would each take turns planning them. It started out good, but soon there were problems with not planning it well, being stressed out with what to plan, or the date being all rushed and tense with so much expectations put on it.

So this week we sat down and talked about dates and how we want them to look like. Here are some things we want to stick to:

1. Be intentional about getting to know each other better, maybe plan some conversations or questions to keep it interesting

2. Have dates every other friday night and wednesday during the day

3. Write out a list of activities we could possibly do on our dates (we still need to do this)

4. Keep it simple and enjoy each others company

So today we grabbed a blanket, the chess board and some sushi and drove out to a park for a little picnic. (don't worry i only eat the deep fried and imitation crab ones) I was totally dominating in the chess game, but couldn't figure out how to corner Viktor into a corner like a mouse... so we called it truce :)
 this is viktor trying to figure out how to beat me... (sorry love, you got a smart little cookie on your hands!)


Kovalchuk Viktor Nikolayevich said...

you are a smart one, but you only won because I was careless.

Val Kovalchuk said...

its true, you are beating me at everything else we play these days... settlers and ratscrew...(i cant believe that one!)

Christina'Marie said...

its sweet how you guys make dates a priority!

Val Kovalchuk said...

thanks christina! It takes work to make it happen, but its very worth it. If we dont pursue each other, when we are older we will become strangers living together. And i want to stay best friends with my husband. :)